Common words, perhaps, but for me, it's quoting the title of a song by Semisonic, one of my all time favorite bands - you remember "Closing Time," right?
I'm an artist at heart (singer, songwriter, audio engineer, writer and visual art hobbyist) sharing random thoughts as I wander my cities trying to figure out what I want to be and how to get there and try not to be the one stopping myself from going after my dreams. ;)
When you’re a kid, they tell you it’s all… grow up, get a job, get married, get a house, have a kid, and that’s it. But the truth is, the world is so much stranger than that. It’s so much darker. And so much madder. And so much better.
Well, that’s probably because you don’t see what they’re reading on their Kindles. :]
(Also, FWIW, I am a reasonably functional adult with a job and Roth IRA and all that schtuff, and I’m rereading the HARRY POTTER series now. GOOD LORD, IT’S GOOD!)
Who cares what you’re expected to read? Just read whatever you want. That’s the great thing about being an adult, you can chose.
When I lived in NYC I saw people reading everything from those self-help and autobiographies to classic lit toHP and Twilight while riding the subway.
Don’t freak out. And don’t rush into “grown up” things just because you think you’re supposed to. Do what’s right for you.
If college isn’t at the top of your list, don’t take on tens of thousands of dollars in debt just because that’s what everyone else is doing. And in a couple years, all of your relatives will start asking about marriage and kids and buying a house and blah blah… for some people, that is the dream, others want nothing to do with it. Don’t let family or friends pressure you into a life you don’t want.
When I jokingly said “when I grow up” it was a bit tongue-in-cheek. Yes, I’m 30 years old. I’m definitely “grown up” in most people’s eyes. But I don’t really feel that way. I bought a house because that’s what I wanted. But I’m not married. I never plan on having kids. And I don’t work a typical day job or have the typical drinking and sports-watching hobbies every sitcom and stereotype tells me I should at this age. My “man cave” is filled with legos and the most kick-ass home theater system ever… which I use to play Borderlands 2 in 5.1 surround sound. And I hope that when I’m 70+ I’m playing Borderlands 25 in 9.2 surround.
Now that you’re 18 you’ll have a few more responsibilities than before. And with each step towards more independence you take away from your parents, you’ll find additional chores and bullshit attached. But once you are independent and “grown up”, you get to make every decision! (unless you have a partner, and then you get to make some of the decisions)
You get to decide how to decorate your place. How you spend your time. When dinner is made (or delivered) and whether you eat your dessert first. You get to throw dinner parties or game nights and set your own holiday traditions, and they can be as formal or as fun as you want.
Being grown up is freakin’ awesome *if* you let go of what you think it’s supposed to be and just build an adult life that is comfortable for you and those you care about.
I would like to add that you shouldn’t be afraid to make all of the decisions. Being an adult can get overwhelming at times, and you’re not always going to make the right decisions. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. The biggest mistake I’ve made thus far has been not really going after what I want.
I decided on you, don’t you get that? I decided on you. I don’t want to go fucking other people and then walk around feeling thrilled and then sad, or empty, or whatever. I like the smell of your hair, and I like the sound of your voice, and I fucking decided on you.
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Since I have no idea where this came from, my response might come off a bit confused. But, is this supposed to convince someone to date someone else? ‘Cause… ya, it’s pretty thin… and patronizing… and scary.
I agree. I also found the clip that it’s from. I don’t watch the show, so I don’t know the full context, but this wouldn’t make me want to be with him.(via observingkatherine)
I’m with you! If a relationship’s only function is to abate loneliness, that’s not a relationship I need. I just need more than that.
That being said, I haven’t watched the show either and therefore am also only speaking to the quote out of context.